The Stink Eye in the Store….

Calling All Mommies! (And Daddy’s too)

Have you ever been in public and people don’t like what you are doing, not-doing, or saying to your kids? Have you ever received the ‘Stink Eye’ from a stranger? We’ll I have and frankly it sucks!

Yes-I have 5 children. I love all of them and although it’s more children than most people have these days I feel we are an average family. That is until we find ourselves in a store or somewhere out in public when people look at us like we are a large family you’d see on a reality TV show.

Recently I took the kids shopping with me. Before we even arrived at the store I prepped them about why we were shopping and what was on our list. We barely got into the store and they were already asking for things they wanted. I repeatedly told them “NO” which worked well for everyone except my 4 year old. He continued to push me on this issue and even came to the register in tears. While I would love to make his smile and give him the moon I think part of my job as a parent is to help him see that we can’t have everything we want right this minute. So after repeatedly being told, “No” he decided it was time to have a temper-tantrum. Kicking, crying, stomping, etc. he pitched a fit and people glared. I bent down and had a word with him about how he was choosing to show his frustration and he was okay until we reached the next store. This is when things got ugly…Although we now had Daddy with us there were 3 crying Menne children in our company. The baby was tired, the toddler was sick of the stroller and the 4 year old was again upset because we wouldn’t let him get a toy he wanted. Enter more glares and cue the stink eye. Yup, I got the stink eye from a number of people who were apparently annoyed with my children’s noisiness.

I don’t apologize for choosing NOT to give in to the demands of a 4-year old. I am sorry they cry sometimes and I honestly do my best to avoid taking them to stores when I know they’ll be crabby. The way people look at me you’d think I was doing bodily harm to my children. Come on people-Give me a break! Please refrain from using the stink eye! I much prefer a “I’ve been there” or an “I completely understand.”

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